No Dinner for One

If this is your first holiday after your divorce do everything you can to make it special.  The first holiday post divorce is always the hardest and you don’t ever want to look back on it as a painful memory.  It will just lead to think of all the good times you had when you were with your ex, even back to when you were dating before marriage.  Now this is dangerous.  There is a reason you are not with your husband or wife right now.  Either you chose to leave them, which means you knew it wasn’t working out and would end badly.  Or, they left you so why would you want to waste your time with someone who doesn’t think your worth it.

In either case you are now in the singles for singles realm and this is a cause for celebration not despair.  To make sure you get the most out of the holiday spend time with people that you care about and that cares about you in return.  This could be your best friend, family or children.  Don’t feel bad if you need to ask to join somebody for the holiday dinner or what have you.  If they truly care about your personals happiness and are around they would be glad to have you.  Tell them you’ll bring something like dessert or wine or fresh bread or any kind of specialty dish you may have.  Can’t cook?  Suggest you’ll do the cleaning if they do the cooking.

IF you still find yourself alone for the holidays volunteering is a great way to use your time.  It will make you feel good and help the public.  You can’t look back on doing something for others as a bad way to use your holiday.


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